The holidays are a magical time of year but can come with their fair share of stress—whether it’s preparing for guests, cooking elaborate meals, or finding the perfect gifts. It can also be bittersweet for au pairs, who may be missing loved ones and holiday traditions from back home.
To help make this season memorable, here are some tips to ensure your au pair feels supported and part of the family celebrations.
Discuss your holiday plans and traditions
For many au pairs, this will be their first time celebrating American holidays. Take time to explain your family’s customs, from special meals to outings, and share the meaning behind each holiday tradition. Encourage your children to join in, too—whether by sharing their favorite moments or learning about some unique holiday customs from your au pair’s home country.
Be sure to be specific about your plans—who will be attending and any activities your au pair might be invited to. Whether it’s a family meal, an outing, or a religious service, let your au pair know how they’re welcome to participate and any ways they can lend a hand. Also, clarify when they’ll be “on duty” and when they can join in as a family member.
Set expectations about time off
The holiday season often comes with a different routine, so be sure to discuss your au pair’s work schedule in advance. Ask them for an RSVP to any family events so you know which plans they’ll join and when they may have other commitments with friends. Open communication will help everyone enjoy the season without added stress.
Create guidelines for gift-giving
Gift-giving can be a source of anxiety for both host families and au pairs, so it’s a good idea to set some guidelines ahead of time. For instance, suggest a small budget per gift, or encourage thoughtful, homemade options. You could also propose creative ideas, such as a “coupon book” of activities for the kids, which adds a personal touch without costing much.
Support your au pair through homesickness
The holiday season can amplify homesickness for au pairs missing family and traditions back home. Encourage your au pair to set aside time for calls with family and friends, and make them feel involved in your family’s celebrations. You might invite them to contribute a favorite dish from their culture, decorate with the family, or share stories of their own holiday traditions. Simply talking with them about what they miss can be a great way to show support and get them excited for the new memories they’re making.
With a little planning and open communication, the holiday season can be a joyful and memorable time for both your family and your au pair. By sharing your traditions, setting clear expectations, and creating space for your au pair’s own holiday customs, you’re not only helping them feel welcome but also enriching your family’s experience. These shared moments can deepen bonds, create lasting memories, and make this season a truly special one for everyone. Here’s to a festive, warm, and wonderful holiday together!